Give Them A Legacy

I'm in a ranting mood.  Yup, something has set me off again, I can't help it.  What is it this time?  Ah, you may well ask.  I'm so fucking sick of hearing people complain about their kids (not the occasional "I need a break" the ever present kind of bitching).  Sick of if.  What the fuck are you doing being a parent if you don't actually want to raise your child?  You have options.  One, abortion, two, adoption.  Pick one and shut the fuck up.  No one forced you to become a parent.  No one is capable of doing that but yourself.  Even men who end up knocking someone up and then decide they don't want to be a dad... pay up and back off.  I know many children, and their mothers, who would be better off without the dad in their life than having the half-assed one they got saddled with.  Doing what's right doesn't always mean sticking around, it's about doing what's in the best interest of the child.  That might mean getting the fuck out of their life and allowing the void to be filled by someone who actually want's to be a dad.

Know what else I'm sick of hearing?  People complaining about not having their kids, or missing them when their at the other parents house for the weekend, and then complaining about not having any time to themselves once the kids are back... are you asking me to bitch slap you?  Because that's what it sounds like to me; an open invitation to smack some sense into your ungrateful ass.  The glass is half empty people should take that half a glass and drown themselves in it and leave the rest of us in peace.  All it sounds like to me is that your child is a source of grief, with you or away from you.  Your child is not the one preventing you from living a fulfilling life.  You are.  They just become a convenient excuse to indulge is selfish, self-pitying, lazy behavior.  Want to do right by your child?  Make something of your life.  Be someone they can be proud of.  Give them someone to look up to.  Your child will not be little forever, and they will eventually start to realize you're not Wonder Woman or Superman.  That natural awe they are born with will wear off and if you haven't created something worth while to replace it... you're going to be seeing all that loathing you internalize reflected back to you in their eyes.

Wake the fuck up.  Give them a legacy to be proud of, not one of shame.  It's the least you can do for bring them into this world.

‎"You are not here merely to make a living. You are here to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, and with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world. You impoverish yourself if you forget this errand." -Woodrow Wilson